JC SiLent:You cant be that far away from me ; if we're looking on the same side of the moon
Saturday, May 10, 2008
Art and Science of Flirting and Body Language [continue]
4. Male Body Language and Flirting
- Man may suck in his gut, flex his muscles, and oth postures tt cause him to appear taller and stronger when a man notices an attractive woman
- shows his readiness to get involved by putting his hands on his hips, or putting his thumbs behind his belt
- Mostly do it to appear macho and posed
- also highlights the genital region sending the message:“I’m virile.”
- Men smoothen hair, and fix ties to make them look their best
- Men do these while women are watching to show their interest.
5. Female Body Language and Flirting
- women actions are more subtle and sexy in men's eyes
- woman can make a man desire her more by exposing the skin of her neck
- woman tosses her hair from one side to the other. it appears more intentional, and is often followed by a well directed intimate gaze
- woman exposes the thin skin on her wrist
- appear/appeal to men saying, “I want to show you more.”
- Women can play with men’s minds by doing little things like wiping off their sweat, and fondling with their hair, fingers, and feet
- most appealing sign a woman can give is to sit with one leg pressed on top of the oth
- this makes the legs appear very well toned
- a hand on the thigh completes the position
- definitely considered a call for the attention.
- an exchange takes place whenever people show their interest
- established mutual confirmation is when one makes the 1st move to approach
- body language makes up a very big part in the 1st moments of courtship
- may determine if ppl become more intimate
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Art and Science of Flirting and Body Language
The art of flirting is expressed with actions. But non-verbal communication is more important than words.
Artful dance makes poss for strangers to become comfortable with each oth, even at their 1st exchange of words. Ppl become at ease with oth when they find the oth person pleasant. Ppl appear pleasant as a result of showing interest in oth.
1. Eye Contact and Triangulation
- actions (body language) reflects our interest in various ways
- above actions generally manifest by instinct when we are facing ppl tt we admire
[eg] ppl usually look at each oth's eyes in intmate conversation
- triangular formation of vision = shift vision from one eye to the oth and to nose bridge
- triangular formation extends downward when one becomes more interested in another
- Some really can’t help to look at oth's body when they feel attracted
- look at their eyes when talk to mere acquaintances
- tend to notice a lot more than just the eyes and nose. Also look at the oth's mouth can suggest interest in kissing when one is interested in anoth
2. Mirroring
- can make oth feel comfortable by mirroring or matching their mood
- tend to move in sync with each oth when both enjoy similar things
- only mean their moods are the same
- instinctive fondness develops when one finds sth in common with anoth
- this same effect is replicated by mirroring
- need to tune in to the oth’s movements and imitate them, not mimic them.
- these actions shldn't be done in the same pace as his/hers. Otherwise, the person might take it instead as mockery
- mirror actions shld be done aft 10-20 sec and must be done naturally
- mirror actions show the oth tt you accept and respect their views without them noticing
- one will subconsciously see you as an open-minded person
3. Other Flirting Signals
- tend to face anoth more when one is interested in the person they’re talking to
- also noticeable in a person’s arms and legs
- legs, knees, or feet are always extended in the direction of anoth when one’s attention is completely focused on anoth
- pupils increase in size and tend to blink more when one like what they see
- eyes can blink in sync when looking into the eyes of the person they like.
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