JC SiLent:You cant be that far away from me ; if we're looking on the same side of the moon
Sunday, August 14, 2005
think this serves as a gentle reminder for all.. it may help me in near future?? hope to heard more gd news in the near future..
1. TRUST is a very impt factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, tt is the end. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.
A telephone operator received a phone call and answered, "Public Utilities Board." There was silence. She repeated, "PUB." There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I dunno whose no. it is." W/o mutual trust, just imagine what will happen if the telephone operator answered with just "hello" instead of "PUB".
2. NO POINTING FINGERS
A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you pls share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a
smile, "Never criticise your wife for her shortcomings or when she does sth wrong. Because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."
We all look fwd to being loved and respected. Many ppl are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look ard to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We shld always remember tt when we point 1 finger at one, the other 4 fingers are pointing at ourselves.
If we forgive oth, oth will ignore our mistake too.
3.NO OVERPOWERING
Many relationships fail because one tries to overpower anoth, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. [rubbish lor cos one shld like anoth for wat he or she is.]
Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character." It is hard to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse will cause
disappointment and unpleasantness. [the higher the expectation. the more disappointed one will be most of the time]It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..
4. RIGHT SPEECH
There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning tt "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." [totally agree tt it will make a drastic differences]
Many relationships break off because of wrong speech [tone/wrong usage of word..]When a couple is too close with each oth, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything w/o considering if it would hurt oth.
A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, "Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date
in the sec sch." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me. Othwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered, "You shld appreciate tt you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."
Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship.
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