JC SiLent:You cant be that far away from me ; if we're looking on the same side of the moon
Sunday, August 14, 2005
situation - 11.05pm, guy and gal were chatting happily, when guy uncontrollably yawns
bad example
gal (sounding out): you feeling sleeping??
guy: yeah, tired from work...
gal (sounds concern): ok, shan't disturb u, go and slp lah
guy: ok, you have an early nite too..
[guy hangs up the phone.]
5 min later, phone rings awaken by the phone rings,
guy: hello?
gal: .............
guy: who's this?
gal (feeling unjust): you felt very bothered by me is it?
guy (confused): huh? what?
gal: .............
guy: why? what happened?
gal: you find me very bothersome is it?
guy: bothersome? why you said this??
gal: ..............
guy: what's the matter? how i would know if you dun say it out?
gal: we are chatting halfway, and you yawn, and went off to slp...
guy: b...but, you are the one who ask me to go to slp...
gal: you already said want to slp already, what else u want me to say?
guy: haiz... if you wanna chat, just say so... what
for tell me to go
sleep, and feeling unhappy in the end?
gal: since when i'm unhappy?
guy: isn't this unhappy? ok ok, i won't sleep the next time, will that do?
gal: what's the pt? i want you to chat with me willingly, and not cos afraid tt i will be unhappy...
in the end, guy spend dunno how long comforting gal, actualsleep time is 11.40pm, plus the earlier argument, he did not have a gd slp. what worse is the gal may argue with the same thing again the next day.
good example
gal (sounding out): you feeling sleepy?
guy (tired vocal, but sound interested) : abit, tired fr work. but you have not finished talking, carry on, i will be listening.
gal (felt consoled): orh, but since you tired, go and slp(still sounding out) never fall into the trap and hang up the phone
guy: there's no afternoon break today, indeed more tiring. how abt i give u a call tmr morning. let's chat awhile more ok? (tells the reason, and offer make up measure)
gal: oh ok. go and sleep now, you must be tired. [gal is willing to let guy go sleep, but guy must do a bit more than this ]
guy: so what time you are going to slp?
gal: not sure, probably a bit later.
guy: ok, but not too late, not good for health. i will be heart pain one hor...
gal (feeling loved): ok lah...
guy: i love you the most! (even if eyes are shutting also must remember to say this impt words, else all effort wasted)
gal: i loved you too, have a good rest! (happy till can float liao)
guy: ehmm...
gal hang up the phone
in the end, 11.10pm. guy sleep peacefully, and probably a morning call from gal the next day...
conclusion
1. female wants feeling and care. most of the time, female's logic cannot be figure out with a reasoning mind.
2. say a few more touching words, concerning lines, will save you more than half of ur precious time
3. when encounter the above situation, must always let the gal hang up the phone 1st. else it will be disastrous...
4. if your gf isn't like the one in the eg, then congrats to u! treasure her! but if otherwise, dun accuse her of being nreasonable. what she wants is very simple.
& 11:49 pm